成功的意义应该是发挥了自己的所长，尽了自己的努力之后，所感到的一种无愧于心的收获之乐，而不是为了虚荣心或金钱。以下是小编分享的成功的定义 ，一起来和小编看看吧。

成功的定义

New York's reporter asked me: what is the definition of success in China?

I thought for a long time, frowning and said to him: "do yourself."

I am not satisfied with the answer, but I don't know why, but I seem to have been unable to find enough evidence to show that I am happy or successful because I am myself.

Yu Ying is my good friend, she crazy love to travel, in 2009 to participate in the Queensland Tourism Bureau, "the world's best job" - Great Barrier Reef nurse recruitment activities, but also the world's top 50 finalists. In her recent trip around the world, wrote such a story: "my Andy is in Melbourne Australia sofa master, he is the assistant director of the TV station, five years ago and his wife divorced, has two lovely children. Andy said: "people tell you the happy life standard is a good car, a big house, beautiful wife and lovely children, when I have all this is in my life the most happy time."

The definition of success is money, a car, a house, and something else...... But I was always very clear sense, each one of the classes of people, or a fixed salary for people, happiness is much lower than when there is no fixed income, such as less money at school.

I remember when I went to school, and students together to be chipped, two people all want to go, stay single room, crowded sleep in a single bed, only to buy a buy to eat to eat together, or you go to buy this, I'm going to buy one, but anyone regardless of who who spend money, do not care who get more, who eat less. But often, I was so obviously lying on the keyboard, headache brain up a bunch of things that do not think of, and these things can actually bring me money, but I'm sorry, even the rice do not want to eat.

What makes us lose our inner happiness and happiness? How the metaphysical definition of success? Is our pursuit of success, it is money?

A few days ago with the classic chat, he had to know that I have a variety of time in the workplace burst out of a variety of happy and unhappy, he told me a word:

If you want to get a raise, you are very tangled, not entangled, to the tangle; if you want to influence or recognition, or respect, it is everywhere. Don't put your valuable material, he will become easy to break.

I suddenly see light suddenly! That I always feel but indescribable feeling, immediately clear!

I remember when I was in a book signing and press contract, everyone asked me what is royalty, I can make a lot of money, if I can write from into small fupo. Of course, I said I do not care about the level of royalties is false, but the gap is not particularly large when royalty, I will pay more attention to whether the press more respect for my words, my opinion, and will patiently listen to the heart, as the author originally want to express something. I know a lot of writer or author, most of the time, their works express is not the original meaning, because the business, because of the vanity of the world needs a lot of transforms can make life in a heavy constant in people, to buy some thrilling. But often after this, the author's meaning is completely changed, or that each author, in order to sell, in the inherent "mold" under the line of a line of words. This is the unspoken rules, not inside the people do not know which is the humble change in the bitter.

I have also been such unspoken rules, edited by me to follow me: "not enough twists and turns" or "readers are concerned about the Raiders and how to save money......" Just one day, I suddenly choose to give up in front of the computer, give up clean. I do not want my youth in a few months time, the money was smeared mess, and then this confusion and false, but also dumped into the hearts of many people.

My journey to Taiwan, after rejecting 15 publishers before eventually signing out, because they promised me, keep all the words and feelings; after 85 career inspirational book for me, after rejecting nearly 20 publishers had to wait a royalty is not high, but in the end I understand the editor. I sat in the house quiet, unhurried sign, not sad not happy at every step in the direction I want to. Each of these actions, I was very calm, because it was my thing.

If I just want money, want to sell, want these very materialistic things, maybe I will have to check out a few books, or at home is now the book can bring the number of money. If unhappy, and it seems that it should also press on a price increase percentage of royalties! After all is not what special difficult thing. But my heart has been resisting, unknown resistance, what am I waiting for?

I especially thank from Beijing to Taiwan in April 28th listed in Taiwan "," Taiwan version of that so far, because in years after the manuscript to be published, I saw Taiwan press a pedestrian gave me all moved to bring. They received from the manuscript to efficient, listed only two months; they were warm, midway wrote a card to me, encouraged me to wait, thanks to my cooperation; their efforts, at ten midnight to reply; they think for me, help me to do all kinds of things. Cooperation with the world culture press, so I really feel a kind of respect". This feeling gives me happiness and peace of mind, far beyond the level of the royalties. Ann asked me today if I had figured out how much money the book would pay me for the first time, and the way I should be able to avoid the fees for international interbank transfers. I'm so very trust everything to press, because they gave me a positive attitude towards the "value" of doing things, this feeling of trust, pleasure assured ease, satisfaction is perhaps a matter of conscience, I have been waiting for the feeling.

Of course, in addition to this, because this is my first book published in Taiwan, about Taiwan and mainland press, understand the way of Taiwanese, the first to open his own signings, because the first time a book to a place far away in the face of the media, the first being arranged all travel, and is the first time for a lot of years to love my Taiwan friends hug! Every time I think of these, feel particularly warm, but also particularly interesting. A year later, in another way to set foot on the original piece of land, salt crisp chicken will be in the original booth?

Sometimes I'm scared to think, if a year ago I made a little effort of the ups and downs of the workplace novel to you now, if I can put a little bit of royalty money, sleep in peace, but also without fear of being scolded you?

I finally want to understand, "be yourself" is the pursuit of those who truly make the heart truly meet the things, these things make you feel respected and recognized, so you can feel the value of omnipresent. Do you, first of all is a success, because you need to adhere to the very heart to resist the distractions around, and every time after being hit will continue to adhere to, let your heart become more powerful, more invincible, become more "shameless". Suddenly one day, you will find that your persistence, etc., or in exchange for each other's acceptance. And then, you win!

Of course, many people will say that it is difficult to do it in china. But I counted my 25 years of life, I think it is difficult because there is no stick. You should not persist, but should adhere to the top!

Money, can let a person feel dry a fulcrum to pry the feeling; and the omnipresent sense of value, will let you have a lingering feeling, and this kind of things around you, you will feel happy and beautiful, comfortable and sincere, perhaps, this is what we should pursue success.

译文：

纽约客的记者问我：在中国，成功的定义是什么?

我想了很久，皱着眉头跟他说：“做自己。”

这个答案，我很不满意，但是又说不清楚为什么，我似乎一直找不到足够的证据表明，我是因为“做我自己”而感到幸福或者成功。

余莹是我的好朋友，她疯狂的热爱旅行，2009年参加昆士兰旅游局“世界上最好的工作”—大堡礁看护员”招募活动，还入围全球前50强。她在最近一段环游世界的旅途中，写下过这样一个小故事：“Andy是我在澳大利亚墨尔本的沙发主人，他是电视台的助理导演，五年前和妻子离婚，有两个可爱的孩子。Andy说：“人们告诉你幸福的生活标准是有好车、大房子，漂亮的妻子，可爱的孩子，当我拥有这一切的时候却是我人生中最不快乐的一段时光。”

世俗对成功的定义是有钱，有车，有房，以及再有点别的物质的东西……但是我总是很清晰的感觉，每一个上了班的人，或者说有固定工资入账的人，幸福感大大低于没有固定收入的时候，比如上学时钱少的时候。

我记得我上学的时候，可以和同学一起凑钱，去两个人都想去的地方，住单人房，挤在一个单人床上睡觉，买吃的只买一份一起吃，或者你去买这个，我去买那个，但谁都不会计较谁比谁多花了钱，也不计较谁得到的多，谁吃到的少。可是经常，我就那么明显的趴在键盘上，头疼脑涨的想起一堆没有做的事情，而这些事情其实是可以给我带来钱的，可是我却难过的连饭都不想吃。

究竟是什么让我们失去了幸福和快乐感?我们内心对成功的定义到底有多么的形而上?难道我们追求的成功，真的是钱吗?

前几天跟古典聊天，他曾了解我在职场各种时段所迸发的各种开心和不开心，他跟我说了一段话：

如果你要的是升职加薪，你就很纠结，没到纠结，到了也纠结;如果你要的只是影响力或者认可，或者尊敬，那就无处不在。别把你的价值物质化，他会变得容易击破。

我一下子就恍然大悟了!那种我一直以来能感觉到但是说不清的感觉，立刻就清晰了!

我记得我在和各种出版社签书约合同的时候，所有人关切的问我版税是多少，我能赚多少钱，我是否能从写书中变成小富婆。当然，我说我不在乎版税高低是假的，但是在版税差距不算特别大的时候，我会更加看重出版社是否更加尊重我的文字，我的意见，以及能否耐心的听取，作为作者内心本来想要表达的东西。我认识很多作家，或者叫作者，很多时候，他们的作品所表达的并不是原来的意思，因为商业，因为这个浮华的世界需要很多的起承转合才能让生活在一沉不变中的人，去掏钱买点惊心动魄。可是往往这样之后，作者的意思被完全改变，或者说，每一个作者，为了销量，在固有的“模子”下面编出一行行的字。这是潜规则，不在里面的人不知道这其中被卑微的改变的苦。

我也曾被这样潜规则过，被编辑追着我跟我讲：“曲折不够!”或者“读者关心的是攻略和怎么省钱……”只是有一天，我突然在电脑前选择放弃，放弃的干干净净。我不想我青春里的某几个月的时光里，被金钱涂抹的乱七八糟，然后这种混乱和虚假，还被倾销到很多人心里。

我的台湾游记，是在拒了15家出版社之后才最终签出去，因为他们答应我，保留所有的文字和感情;我的85后职场励志书，是在拒了全国近20家出版社之后才等来了版税不高，但最终理解我的编辑。我就坐在家里安静的等，不慌不忙的签，不悲不喜的看着每一步都在往我想要的方向靠近。这其中的每一次动作，我都异常的平静，因为这本来就是我的东西。

如果我只是想要钱，想要销量，想要这些很物质化的东西，也许我会为此早早签出了好几本，或者目前正在家里算每本书能带来的钱是多少。如果不如意，似乎还应该和出版社论个价!毕竟提高点版税百分比并不是什么特别难的事儿。可是我的内心里一直在抗拒，不明原因的抗拒，我到底在等待什么?

我特别感谢4月28日在台湾上市的《从北京到台湾，这么近那么远》台湾版，因为在从年后交稿，到即将出版，我看到了台湾出版社一行人给我带来的所有感动。她们高效，从收到稿子到上市只有两个月;她们温暖，中途写卡片给我，鼓励我耐心等待，谢谢我的配合;她们努力，半夜十点还回复我的邮件;她们为我着想，帮我努力去办各种麻烦的事情。跟天下文化出版社的合作，让我很真切的感到一种“被尊重”。这种感觉所带给我的幸福和安心，大大超越版税高低的问题。今天安安问我，是否计算过这本书第一次付款会给我多少钱，以及我应该用哪种方法避开国际跨行转账的手续费的问题，其实我都不知道。我就是那么那么很信任的把一切都交给了出版社，因为他们交给我一种很有“价值”的做人做事的积极态度，这种信任的感觉，放心踏实的愉快感，诚心诚意的满足感，也许就是我一直在等待的感觉吧。

当然，除此以外，我因为第一本小书的在台出版，了解了台湾和大陆出版社的不同，了解台湾人的做事方式，第一次开自己的签售会，第一次因为一本书而去很远的地方面对媒体，第一次被人安排好所有行程，还有就是第一次给很多一年来喜欢我的台湾朋友们大大的拥抱!每次想起这些，就觉得心里特别温暖，而且特别有趣。一年后的今天，用另外一种方式重新踏上原来的那片土地，盐酥鸡还会在原来的摊位吗?

有时候我很后怕的想，倘若一年前我稍加努力的编出一个跌宕起伏的职场小说给你们看，现在我是否能揣着一点点版税的钱，安安心心的睡觉，还不用担心被你们骂?

我终于想明白了，“做自己”，就是追求那些真正能让内心真正满足的事情，这些事情让你感到被尊重，被认可，让你能够感受到自己的价值无所不在。而做自己，首先就是一种成功，因为你需要很坚持的内心去抗拒周围的干扰，而每一次被打击之后的继续坚守，会让你的内心不断强大，变得愈发无坚不摧，变得愈发“不要脸”。突然有一天，你会发现，你的坚持，等来或者换来了对方的接受。然后，你赢了!

当然，很多人会讲，在中国做自己很难。可是我历数我25年的生命，我却觉得，难是因为没有坚持。你不应该坚持到底，而是应该坚持到顶!

金钱，只能让人感受到被某一个支点撬起的干枯感;而无所不在的价值感，才会让你有一种被萦绕的感觉，而这种萦绕你的东西，会让你感到幸福与美好，安心与真诚，或许，这就是我们应该追求的成功。