We all know that money can't buy happiness - but many times we act as if we'd be happier with a bit more money. We are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren't happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we'll have the good life.

我们都知道金钱买不来幸福 - 但很多时候，钱多一点，我们也会显得更高兴。我们总想有钱(尽管我们知道富人也并非总是幸福);我们总要得到电视介绍给我们的最新玩意或样式;我们要赚更多的钱，因为有钱我们才能享受美好生活。

But none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad thing is that it could take us decades of pursuing wealth and luxury items before we realize this.

但那些东西都不能给我们带来幸福。不管我们赚多少钱，无论我们在银行存有多少钱，无论我们的衣着，轿车或玩具有多么漂亮，都不会使我们更幸福。而可悲的是，它可以让我们数十年如一日不断追求财富和奢侈品，直到现在才明白这一点。

So what will bring us happiness? Luckily, it's three things that don't cost a thing. These three things have been prove by research - surveys of hundreds of thousands of people about what they have, what their lives are like, and how happy they are.

那么什么才能带给我们幸福呢?谢天谢地，有三样东西，不花分文就可得到。通过对数十万人进行的研究-调查，这三样东西的价值已经得以证明，调查的问题是他们的经济现状，他们的生活情况，以及他们的幸福程度。

Here they are, the Three Secrets to Happiness:

以下就是，幸福三秘笈：

Good relationships. We have a human need to be close, to be intimate, with other human beings. Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy. Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.

良好的人际关系。我们人类需要和其他人亲近，亲密。建立良好的，互助式友谊，稳定的婚姻，或家庭成员之间亲密友善关系会让我们变得更幸福。行动步骤：需要时间，从今天开始，拿出时间与你的亲人在一起，告诉他们他们对你多重要，倾听他们谈话，培养你与他们的关系。

Positive thinking. I'm obviously a big proponent of positive thinking as the best way to achieve your goals, but it turns out that it can lead to happiness too. Optimism and self-esteem are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life. Action steps: Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first habits you develop. Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Instead of "I can't" think "I can" . It may sound corny, but it has worked for me, every time.

积极的心态。我一直旗帜鲜明地支持，积极心态是实现自己目标的最佳方法，但事实证明，它还可以带来幸福感。乐观和自尊是拥有幸福生活人们的一些最佳指标。快乐的人感觉精力充沛，生活有序，并有积极的人生观。行动步骤：养成积极思维的习惯。事实上，这是你应该形成的一个首要习惯。养成习惯，摒弃所有的消极想法，代之以积极的心态。不要总想“我不能”，要想到“我能”。这听起来好似陈词滥调，但对于我来说每一次都有好效果。

Flow. This is a popular concept on the Internet these days - the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us. We are so immersed in our task that we lose track of time. Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they're passively mindless, but when they're absorbed in a mindful challenge. Action steps: Find work that you're passionate about. Seriously - this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you're passionate about. Turn off the TV - this is the opposite of flow - and get outside and do something that truly engages you.

心流感应。这是当今互联网上一个很流行的概念 - 是一种当我们全身心投入眼前的任务或工作时所进入的状态。我们全神贯注于某项事情，全然忘记时间。让你达到这种心流状态的工作和休闲，毫无疑问将让你感到幸福。人们在消极懈怠状态下是不可能感受到最大的快乐，只有当他们全身心面对一项令人心动的挑战时才能赢得这种感受。行动步骤：寻找你最钟情的工作。一定要认真谨慎 - 这是极其重要的一步。找到你喜欢的爱好。关掉电视 - 看电视不利于心流的产生 - 到外面去，做一些真正吸引你的事情。

You've been given the Three Secrets to Happiness. Don't waste them!

你已经得到了幸福三秘笈。千万不可弃之不用!